The Total Flirt

We’re getting closer to releasing the totalflirt.com/app">Total Flirt app (iPhone and Android)! In preparation, I made a short and sassy walkthrough video of the app - I had a lot of fun making it. The images are screengrabs from the iPhone version, and the app has a few more improvements and a lot more information in the final version. We're just waiting for Apple now... fingers crossed that all goes well. Because the Total Flirt book is coming out earlier than expected, it will probably all be available at the same time. Possibly even next week. Phew!

I hope you like the video! I wrote it, filmed it with my Lumix, and did the editing in iMovie. I'll post here when the app goes live, or you can keep an eye on our totalflirt">Total Flirt Twitter account, Total Flirt on Facebook, or the main totalflirt.com/app">Total Flirt app page.

totalflirt.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/likealittle.png" alt="likealittle" title="likealittle" width="241" height="178" class="alignright size-full wp-image-73" />While flirting with the internets, I found likealittle and within minutes I've fallen deep in like - and I wish it wasn't just for college students! It's one of the cutest, funnest anonymous flirting websites (only flirting website?) I've ever seen. I can see how likealittle is so incredibly addictive for everyone on it, and I love that it's all anonymous. They keep it sweet, flirty, and anon! Yay! This is how The Chicago Sun-Times describes the site:

(...) Likealittle.com, the latest social networking site to sweep America campus-by-campus, has taken off locally in the last month. Started Oct. 25 by Stanford University students, the site facilitates anonymous flirting in a “missed connection” format. The site describes itself as a “flirting-facilitator platform,” a place where anyone can “compliment and chat about potential crushes you see around you.”

(...) The website bans sexist, harassing or demeaning comments. [Katelyn] Newey sees the anonymous positivity as a way to bring her commuter campus closer together. “It’s by no means an online dating website, it’s a fun way of flirting,” she said. (...read more, suntimes.com)

What hooked me was visiting the site and reading likealittle's "About" page. I teach at UCSF's extension - does that count!? Here's to hoping some savvy web entrepreneur figures out how to make likealittle happen for the rest of us!

In
Snuggies.

Out
The mullet.

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Finally, in the event that this site proves ineffective in getting you a date, phone number, or email address, our final suggestion is to carry around a picture of a cute puppy (+10 to your charisma if its tongue is sticking out) and gratuitously pull it out in every social situation. For your convenience, we have included one on this page! Just print it out, cut on the dotted lines, and place it conspicuously in your wallet or purse.

Development Derring-Do
We released version 1.0 in October 2010 after 90 cumulative years of frustrated flirtation, 42 cups of coffee, and 12 hours of hardcore development. The site was born at Stanford, in part, due to my lack of game with women. At the moment, Like a Little is only localized to a few college campuses, but we are looking to bring it to other colleges around the country. Contact us intern@likealittle.com if you’re interested in being a Like a Little Prophet!

Happy flirting!
Evan and the Like a Littlers
P.S. We’d love to hear from you! Just email Evan at anytime with thoughts, ideas or suggestions at evan.reas@gmail.com. Do not be alarmed if he replies within 30 seconds at 4 AM.

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Ever wish you had a cheat sheet for flirting? Total Flirt is the hip girl's handbook to getting any guy you want. With the techniques in Total Flirt, no guy will ever be "out of your league."

Know how some girls seem to have secret tricks to get guys? And guys use tricks like "The Game" to get girls? Well, here they are. This is Girl Game.

Total Flirt is packed with tricks and tips for every situation you'll encounter when out on the prowl. Secrets of pick-up artists are explained and styled for the girl who wants more out of life.

Spend 20 minutes with Total Flirt and learn:

• Two distinctive ways to flirt, and why you need to know the difference.
• Total Flirt relies on the science of kinesics, the study of body language and its hidden messages: learn how to communicate magnetism and seduce your target – or get rid of someone - without words.
• Take style quizzes to see what kind of flirt you are, and what kind you could be.
• Master the art of "speed flirting" and how to tell if he's worth it.
• Get oodles of conversation starters - and exit strategies when you need to hit the "eject" button.
• Find out how to tell if he's really into you (or just a friend), and how to eliminate the competition.
• Learn how to walk like a siren, talk like a bombshell, and seduce like a vamp -- learn how to do it all online.
• How to get guys you think are "out of your league."

This fun and breezy purse-sized "pocket wingmate" is perfect for girls who just wanna have fun, and those looking for "the one." The Total Flirt is from sexuality expert and bestselling author Violet Blue - formulated from years of research, studies, and infiltration of male and female pick-up artist societies.

Image: back cover.

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Confessions of a PUA Super Girl is not brand new, but it is required reading for all girls on the prowl. The author, Jessi Fischer (AKA "The Sexademic") holds a Master of Arts in Sexuality Studies from San Francisco State University and is a professional public speak, among other things.

My book Total Flirt and forthcoming app has a lot of secrets and techniques from so-called "secret societies of pick-up artists" - male enclaves that trade on tricks and psychological techniques to "seduce" girls. These guys won't like seeing me reveal, hand over and re-style their tricks to women - especially because I'm basically arming you with them so you can get what you want. Whatever that may be.

Fischer spent time a year ago with a couple professional "PUAs" and I've talked to her about what she learned, at length, largely in research for my Total Flirt book. She wrote about it in this post, with some great thoughts about how they view and treat girls. If you like her post, you'll LOVE my book - and you'll really love the app (for Apple and Android). You must read her post about the good, the bad and the ugly of PUA culture and practices - ladies, take note, and look for more of what I reveal about what these guys do in my book. Here's an excerpt:

(...) The PUA or Seduction community is highly controversial. Is it helping men? Enabling would-be murderers with enough misogynistic rhetoric to spark a killing spree? Or maybe no longer valid but now a ridiculous, sprawling parody? Even among current, would-be and never-will-be PUA men, they can’t seem to decide. (...)

[THE GOOD]
Men obtaining confidence. This is true for everything in life. If you are nervous or don’t believe in yourself, other people notice. No-one gravitates towards unsure individuals. (...)

[THE UGLY]
Women can be manipulated, if only you know how. Everyone has the power of critical thought. Assuming that all females are walking programs that will bend to your will if you say the right phrases, do the right things or project the right persona is insulting. I was once outside of a club talking to a friend and a budding PUA. He actually started talking to his friend in front of me about how girls like me were attracted to being ignored. I walked away. So much for that theory. (...)

Read all of Confessions of a PUA Super Girl (sexademic.wordpress.com).

In case you want a little taste of what’s inside Total Flirt, check out the sweet Table of Contents! Look for images of the whole lineup after the jump…

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In the UK, "pulling" is the term for scoring. That sounds kind of blunt, but it's just as much about flirting successfully as it is about getting someone to go home with you. Pulling is basically the act of attracting: flirting, seducing, picking up, pulling a date (dating). British sex educator Dr. Petra Boyton Ph.D. has a long but worth-it article you'll want to read that covers the study of "pulling" and so much more. In Reporting back on the ‘Science of Pulling’ – making science work for you, you'll learn about doing just that: how science can make your flirt game and your dating life better.

I like that in it, we get factual, practical tips on how scientists study dating, the science behind it, thoughts about finding "the one," all about dating websites and their data, debunking the "self help" industry, and loads of tips to improve your chances and experiences at dating. Here's an excerpt:

Last Wednesday as part of the British Science Festival we put theory into action with a Science of Pulling evening where we heard about the evidence base around dating and relationships and applied this knowledge at the festival’s first speed dating event.

The event was sold out and fortunately all those who attended were willing to have fun, ask questions, share stories and most importantly speed date at the newly refurbished MAC.

For those of you who weren’t able to make it (and in the tradition of good science) here’s a report on what we did, what we discovered, and what we’ve still left to learn. (...read more, drpetra.co.uk)

Photo: Ellen Von Unweth's "Kissing Booth."

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Learn how to flirt and much, much more. Welcome to the destination for my upcoming book Total Flirt. I'm author Violet Blue -- you can see all my books here on my Violet Blue Amazon page -- and I've been working on a female guide for flirting for six years. I like to think of it as the "Girl's Guide to The Game."

I've got videos, phone apps and a while lot of really useful tools planned to go along with this book, and plan on making most of it free -- some with secret keywords just for those in the know to get free bonus chapters and extra phone-reference-ready, pick-up lines.

In the meantime, totalflirt.com/flirtingforgirls/">click here to read more about what the Total Flirt book has in store.