How To Flirt With Geeks – For The Shy And Geeky

In March I got to give a huge presentation (600 chairs) on the main stage at music, film and technology conference SxSW 2011. It was called Sexual Survival for Geeks, and the talk was covered by NPR, CNN and other outlets – a success! Above, you can click through my slides.

Naturally, the talk had to include lots of tips on flirting and seducing geeks and nerds of all kinds, what to do when the flirting goes well (or not!) and plenty of advice on the practicalities of flirting and hooking up at a conference/festival. It was perfectly timed, as Total Flirt (the book) had just come out.

It went great! As bonus material for the talk I worked with erotica author Alison Tyler to create fun and flirty SxSW-themed erotica, and I wrote and podcast an entire tutorial on how to flirt with geeks. The flirting cheat sheet is aimed at geeks – people who are shy or ordinarily a bit (or a lot) socially awkward.

You can see all of the talk materials here on the SxSexy page, including both text and audio for How To Flirt With Geeks.

I was delighted to see that sex ed site for young men Hooking Up And Staying Hooked did a feature on the tutorial and tips, Flirting Tips For Geeks From Violet Blue. It’s a great site; highly recommended.

About Violet Blue

Total Flirt author Violet Blue is a Forbes Web Celeb, SF Appeal contributor, ZDNet/CBSi sex and tech columnist, a high-profile tech personality and one of Wired's Faces of Innovation. She is regarded as the foremost expert in the field of sex and technology, a sex-positive pundit in mainstream media (MacLife,, The Oprah Winfrey Show, etc.) and is regularly interviewed, quoted and featured prominently by major media outlets (from ABC News and CNN to the Wall Street Journal). A published feature writer and columnist since 1998, Violet also has many award-winning, best selling books; her books are featured on Oprah's website. She was the notorious sex columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle. She headlines at conferences ranging from ETech, LeWeb and SXSW: Interactive, to Google Tech Talks at Google, Inc. The London Times named Blue one of the 40 bloggers who really count (2010). Violet Blue is in no way associated with the unauthorized use of her name (or likeness) and registered trademark in pornographic films.
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